Originally, this post was going to be ways to cure a broken heart. There are many schools of thought on this, ranging from have a good cry, burn their possessions, get horribly drunk, or move on to the next person. I don’t believe any of those are the cure, they are merely something to fill the time until your heart heals. Because the simple truth is this. The only cure for a broken heart is time.
Over time, you will find yourself thinking of the person less and less, and when they do pop into your head, you might even smile at the memory rather than feel pain. When that happens, you are probably cured.
There are hundreds of books, magazine articles and songs dedicated to curing broken hearts.
Can it really be that simple? Just wait it out? I think so.
Put on your “boy done me wrong” playlist, eat ice cream, scream and cry, whatever you want to do in the moment, but know that it will pass.
It might feel like your world has ended. It hasn’t.
One part of it has ended, but that’s all. In time, you will find ways to fill the gap the relationship left, you will probably come to realise it was for the best. After all, if it was meant to be, it wouldn’t have ended.
Here are three ways to fill the time and move on:
1. Career
Have you been thinking about going for a promotion? Changing careers altogether?
Throw yourself into it. Use the extra time to research what skills you will need. Now complete relevant training, and offer assistance with projects that will help you build up the skills.
2. Hobby
Have you always wanted to write a book, paint, learn a new craft?
Now is the time. Lose yourself in something you enjoy.
3. Travel
If you’ve always wanted to travel, then now could be the time. If money is what’s stopping you, look into a working holiday.
Those all sound better than moping about over a failed relationship right?
If you don’t want to commit to something big, why not just spend time with friends. Fill your spare time with fun activities. Laugh.
Remember though, if some of your friends are mutual friends, it is unfair to put them in the middle. Just because your ex has broken your heart doesn’t mean he/she is a bad friend. Don’t make your friends chose sides. If you really need a good bitch about your ex, bitch to your non-mutual friends.
Now, turn off the done me wrong playlist, and play your “moving on” playlist. Think Cheryl’s I Don’t Care, Destiny’s Child’s Independent Woman, and Alanis Morissette’s You Oughta Know. Turn the volume up, put on a slick of lippy and show the world you aren’t broken!
What’s your go to cure for a broken heart? Let me know in the comments 🙂
I usually watch the music video for Fifth Harmony's Miss Movin' On. 🙂 But it's not that easy to "move on." You're right – it just takes time. I have to mentally stop myself from texting him and try to throw myself into work and myself. I recently started a zumba class, and that's been fun so far – keeps my fingers off my iPhone anyway.
Oh, I'll have to give that one a watch! Good on you for not texting, and glad you're enjoying Zumba 🙂