My quote for this week is
“Be someone you would want to be friends with.”
Some people believe friends are a right. I believe they are a privilege, and consequently, I believe they should be treated with love and respect, in the same way you would want your friends to treat you.
If you are not someone you would want to be friends with, then why would someone else want to be friends with you. I don’t mean personality traits, I’m not suggesting for a second you change who you are.
Ask yourself what it is you value in your closest friends. What values do they have that make you want to be around them. Are they trustworthy? Loyal? Have your back? Reliable?
Those are good qualities to want in a friend, but in return, you must display the same qualities.
If you want your friends to keep your secrets, keep theirs.
Want them to be loyal, be loyal to them.
If you want them to have your back when someone is being bitchy behind your back, then do the same for them. Stand up for them.
If they are the friend that would drop everything and run to be by your side when you need them, do the same for them.
For a friendship to truly work, it has to be a two way street.
I know I have one or two friends I could tell anything to and it wouldn’t go any further. I know they wouldn’t silently judge me, they would come right out and say exactly what they were thinking. And in return, I hope those friends know I would do exactly the same for them.
Being honest and being trustworthy are two of the major things I value in a friendship, so it’s something I try to reciprocate. If a friend tells me something, it doesn’t go any further. If a friend asks my opinion, I will be honest, even if it’s not what they want to hear.
My good friends know not to ask me something if they don’t want the truth. I’m not the friend to ask a question to if you are just fishing for compliments.
Do you try to be someone you would want to be friends with? What do you value most in your friends? Let me know in the comments 🙂
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I have always valued honesty too. I think this quote is spot on. For me it’s just about doing your best. My mum used to try and change who I was, tell me to keep my opinions to myself. I know she was trying to help as I lost some friends along the way because I was ‘too homest’ but to me those people werent real friends so in the end no great loss. You are lucky if you have a few really good friends who you can totally be yourself with, they are like gold. Thanks for linking up with Candid Cuddles. (Cohosting this week)
I agree, if I have people who can’t handle my true opinions and stop being friends with me because of it, they are people I probably won’t miss! Yes, we all need those friends where you can be who you are, no glossing over the ad bits, they are the best friends! Thanks for hosting 🙂
I do try to be the friend that I would like to have. My friends are so important to me and sometimes, I wonder how I would ever survive without them. I absolutely appreciate everything they do for me and if I ever get the chance to give them a fraction back, I jump at the chance. Thank you for this lovely reminder xx
Me too, having good friends is one of the keys to happiness I believe, and I would be lost without mine. Thank you 🙂 x
Friendship is an amazing gift but yes it definitely takes work. Loyalty is a big one & honesty too. I consider you to be a great friend now Debbie, even though we haven’t met, I’m very happy to have you in my circle of blogger buddies! Thank you for sharing with candid cuddles x
It’s the best, and that makes it worth the work. I feel exactly the same about you, I never would have believed it possible to be friends with someone I haven’t met, but blogging has made me realise it is very possible! Thanks you! Thanks for hosting 🙂 x
This makes me think I’ve been terrible at keeping in touch with friends back home, I really need to make a better effort to keep hold of my friends. I miss them! Thanks for this thought! #CandidCuddles
Give them a call, I’m sure they miss you too! It could just make someone’s day 🙂
Love this! I absolutely do try to be someone that I would want to be friends with! I think this is so important, you can’t expect people to behave a certain way it you don’t do it yourself. Thanks for linking up to #HappyDaysLinky x
Thank you 🙂 Exactly, you have to treat people how you want to be treated! Thanks for hosting x
I am always honest, I just don’t see a reason to be anything else. I’m also honest with strangers- I can remember a woman asking me in a changing room whether she suited a skirt. I was honest and said no the colour didn’t compliment her and she was so grateful that she hadn’t wasted money!
Thank you for joining in #HappyDaysLinky x
I don’t think I’d be brave enough to ask a stranger’s opinion on something I was trying on, but if I was I would hope they would be honest like that. Thanks for hosting 🙂 x