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  1. Yes!!! I get so many in one day that most of the time I donā€™t even look at them. Instagram is the worst for these messages for me. I get at least 5 to 6 hello beautiful messages a day. Or just hi. Like seriously, thatā€™s all you have to say? Dude you need to drastically step it up if you are trying to get my attention! And the other sales pitch ones drive me crazy. I get these really long messages that start with complimenting my feed then right into ā€œwill you by my product please?ā€ Um, no. Iā€™m good thanks. And as for returning favors I get on Facebook all the time people inviting me to like their blog pages but when I send them one they donā€™t accept. I stopped doing that myself because it just doesnā€™t feel very genuine but Iā€™ve also stopped accepting myself unless they are someone whose page I really like and I k ow what theyā€™re about. Iā€™m right there with you Debbie. It does get to the point sometimes where Some days Iā€™m just over it. Youā€™re not alone with this. I definitely feel your irritation with social media.

  2. Yes, I have been having a lot of trouble with Facebook unwanted Follow me messages, usually single, divorced or widowed men who seem to have nothing in common with my interests. I have also had lots of spam from google +.

  3. I have yet to get a pervy message on any social media. A bit strange given how many people I know who get them all the freaking time. If I figure out my secret, I will share so others can be spared the cringe.

    For me, social media seems to be full of people screaming and outraged at each other. There’s not much social in social media anymore.

  4. Hari OM
    Nope… because I don’t do any of them. Blogger is the only ‘social’ media in which I engage and even then, not to the extent of some. I recently lamented that quite a lot of blogs have ‘gone commercial’. I continue to follow a few that I have known for some years, but definitely dropped back from visits and comments when they are pushing product. Using the inbuilt mechanisms of Google, I have also, (not completely, but absolutely minimum) almost eradicated bothersome commenters. As you do, I do not automatically follow those who follow me. Even those I follow myself, I do not feel obliged to always be commenting, even though I may read every post. Not everything needs a response and I will only give one where I actually have thoughts – like today here!!!

    Am like that in ‘real life’ too… will always be polite, but am not automatically a ‘bff’ to anyone!!! There’s sociability and there’s boundary-breaking. The current media swamp seems to somehow remove boundaries and that is why, in recent times, moves are started to try and reassert them.

    Sending regards – your ever reading not always commenting blogpal, YAM xx (&*>)

  5. I agree Debbie! I find the sponsored posts the most annoying thing. I have to wade through posts I actually do not want to see just to get to my friends. I’m all for paid promotion, but there are just so many now. #AnythingGoes

  6. I spend a lot less time on social media than I used to, and use it to promote much less. What made me cynical was the constant need to pay to have my stuff seen. Little guy got completely squeezed out. I think the end of SU really was the beginning of the end for me #anythinggoes

  7. I don’t use IG – mainly because I don’t take photos or have anything to share on it. The number of women who’ve commented about yucky males following them makes me really glad I’ve never bothered creating an account. FB is mainly ads and sponsored stuff, but I can scroll past that and I don’t get followed by weirdos, so I still like it. It’s a crazy world out there and I think we all need to be careful who we let get close to us.

  8. I am not on IG. I was considering it to promote my blog, but now I doubt if I will get on. I like Twitter. It’s fast, fun and the people I follow are mostly runners, so it’s a very supportive, positive group. Sorry to read about your negative experience. Social media tends to be a time-waster for me.

  9. I’m with you on this totally. It’s spam of a whole other nature! I hate the ads, I hate the disgusting creepy messages. I promote my blog posts through Insta so I have no choice but to grin and bear it! #AnythingGoes

  10. I’m fairly new to Instagram, so I haven’t encountered that yet, but I’ve decided to only follow accounts that I’m genuinely interested in, rather than follow back everyone who follows me. What I’m tired of are selfies. So many people just post pictures of themselves, which I find narcissistic. It drives me crazy. Discovering the mute function has saved my sanity. No matter how much I like you, I don’t need to see a different selfie of your face every day. Congrats, you have a face! We all do.

    As for Facebook, I rarely bother with my newsfeed now because it’s always:

    – horrible thing Trump is doing/has done
    – horrible thing that happened to POC
    – school shooting
    – species going extinct
    – my pet has died
    – “If you do this/are friends with this person/vote this way I’m going to unfriend you” threats
    – “I’m going to unfriend everyone who doesn’t spark joy” threats
    – this person is horrible and we should all unfriend and ostracize him without hearing his side of the story
    – complaints about how horrible Facebook is

    • I should really do that too, but I feel horrible if a blogger or writer follows me and I don’t follow them back (unless it’s clear they’re playing a game). Yeah FB can be really depressing, I tend to stick to groups and pages on there.

  11. I cannot understand unsolicited guff pushing some product or service. I am immediately suspicious and irritated by the waste of space, fearing I might miss something important! Also often they push something I have already bought or have sorted already. So why do this and just annoy people! #BloggerClubUK

  12. I agree with you – I get lots of ‘hello beautiful’ messages and followers on insta – and I block anyone who does that follow unfollow malarky – I’ve always been a bit cynical about most things online – and all the fake news too.
    #bloggerclubUK

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